Is pornography really responsible for the rape?

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Is pornography really responsible for the rape?

Recently, we got to hear that Nepal Government is going to ban porn sites. The government has blamed porn content for the (so-called) growth of rape cases in Nepal. This has raised a debate, ‘Is porn really responsible for the rape cases?’ Today, I’m putting my opinion on this issue.

Yesterday, I received a comment on my facebook page in which restriction on porn was strongly asked. He claimed that pornography/nudity contents are creating a very bad impression on teenagers and leading them to rape.

Is porn really responsible for rape? I started pondering about the effect of porn contents on teenagers. And that too, in our social setting in which teenagers are forced to learn about sex from porn videos.

Porn videos are all well-scripted and well-directed movies. They aren’t spontaneous sexual activities. And thus have lots of exaggerated scenes which don’t happen and need not happen in the real world. They are just for the entertainment purpose for adults. Adults mostly use porn to assist in their masturbation or heat up the moment with the partner.

But, would the teens who are introduced to sex via porn contents be able to understand the reality behind porn? This is really a genuine issue. My answer is No. Teens won’t be able to differentiate between porn and real life on their own.

During my teenage days, I used to listen to the program ‘Saathi Sanga Manka Kura’ broadcasted from Radio Nepal. Lots of question were asked about the sizes of their penis, or breasts, etc. It was clear that teen boys were comparing their penis with the guys in porn videos and teen girls were doing same regarding their breasts. They found their penis size much shorter than what they see in porn videos and thus got worried. I feel lucky that I listened to that radio program at that critical stage of my life and understood the reality. Else, I would have similar worries.

When such comparisons can worry teens, we can easily understand that teens aren’t able to differentiate porn from real life. They get exposed to different genres of porn which show sexual activities which are socially unacceptable as well. They may develop similar wishes and expectations in their real life. And in such a situation, I cannot disagree that porn may lead to sexual misconducts.

What shall we do? Should the porn be banned or restricted?

I strongly disagree. Whatever is restricted or banned grows higher curiosity to teen mind. And, teenage curiosity cannot be restricted. They will be exposed to porn from one or other sources.

And, if you ask me if the porn sites can be completely banned on the internet, I strongly disagree. Use of VPN or Tor browser can easily bypass any ban or restriction. And, there are so many free VPN services available.

Then, how can we protect our teens from the bad influence of porn contents?

Proper sex education. Yes, proper sex education is the solution to this problem. We need to teach our teens about the differences between reality and porn. When they understand that porns don’t represent the reality and are just the well-directed movies, they won’t get inspired negatively from porn.

We need to teach teens that no matter what sex should always be with the mutual agreement only. They should be taught that the basis of sex is the mutual agreement between partners and the objective of sex should always be mutual satisfaction.

After this education, do you still think they will be negatively influenced by porn and get engaged in rape?
Please, share me your opinion from the below comment box. I would love to read your opinion.

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